Sympathy and empathy

These are one of the most confused words. Though sounding same but they are way different from each other. Oftenly we see people moving around and showing pity but seldom we see people stepping in other’s shoes. We see people suffering and the most common response is that we sympathize with you but what can anyone do. A lot could have been done if that person would have tried to empathize with that person rather than merely expressing pity on his situation.

At all places we can clearly see how people justify intolerable actions of ruling people. For instance, the biggest problem nowadays is exploitation. Everyone is directly or indirectly facing it. But why is it not halting. The answer is really simple because they are always able to find a hen to slaughter. Whoever tries to revolt becomes fish out of water and is thus choked. The others just see, sympathize for a day and the very next day those same people start finding faults in that person to justify their silence.

A few days ago, I saw an autorickshaw driver and learnt an important lesson of life. There was a poor person trying to sell little stuff on roads to earn bread and butter for his family. No one bought anything from him. Then he went to that autorickshaw driver. Although he was the poorest person there standing on the traffic lights but he was the only one who purchased his stuff. This event occupied my brain for a long time. I finally deducted that the beggar knew that he is the only one who can completely comprehend his situation because he knows what it is like to see your family sleep without food

I think a lot can improve if people start empathizing rather than merely sympathizing with other’s grievances.


Distance love

“Distance Relationships”

They are just too much to handle.. actually they are quite interesting you have always a new topic to fight on. The main element in every relationship is trust. It is easy to trust when a person is in front of you, when you can keep a watch on the activity of your partner and when you can observe that person on your own. But when it comes to distance relationship it’s like walking on a sharp edged sword. You are 24×7 wearing a blindfold and walking on a narrow road with dungeon on both sides. If a single glitch enters than it becomes even more challenging. Sometimes after one bad experience a perpetual fear develops that this distance might bring that person close to someone’s else physical presence. And this fear always maintains a constant cold war between the two hearts. The best part of these wars is that they always end on a good note by increasing the love between them. Every fight gives them reason to love each other more and more. The justifications reassure them that they are still madly in love with each other. They never leave each other even after all these incessantly occurring fights thus making their bond more and more strong. They cross all the hurdles together as in these relationships there are thousands of people who are ready to stand as a hurdle between them. At times these wars are just for fun because you want to hear those loving words from your partner, you want him to pamper you, to caress you, to shower his ceaseless love…..


Where are we heading towards..

After a while life becomes a real challenge. Everyday you have new hurdles in front of you. It gets difficult to get satisfied with what you have. Some say that satisfaction means death but I think that people have taken it way too seriously, this is having deleterious effect on the lives of people. Even after working for day and night no one is happy. It has become almost impossible to stay content. The billionaires are also in the same race of running incessantly behind money, but where is the time to enjoy this acquisition. We get so busy that we never really enjoy what we have achieved so far, we have forgotten to cherish our earlier much desired achievements. This has also become the leading cause of depression. Happiness has faded away and people have become mere hands working day and night. The irony is that they say they are working for better future but the stress never let them enjoy that so called future. Everyone is getting trapped in this never ending vicious cycle. Nearly 90% people are unaware of their real selves. They are what people around them wanted them to be, to fit in their frames. Just a piece of paper is running the whole world…


Cup of tea

Though just a cup but it possess the power to captivate my attention and carry me to a different world. A world full of cherishable memories. This is my Nani maa’s(grand mother) cup. She has gone to reside in heaven now but has left ample of things for me to ponder upon. In my childhood, I used to hate tea. A lot of people tried to develop my taste buds for tea but all their efforts went in vain. My grand ma was very fond of tea. She used to drink around 5 cups of tea a day. Their was some magic in her hands. She could make anything much much tastier as the main ingredient in everything was, her love beyond any measures. I used to be a short time lover of tea i.e. only when I used to go to her house in summer vacations. I don’t know how she prepared that tea but I have failed to make that tea even under her guidance. We used to ask her to prepare tea masala for us all but never succeeded in bringing that taste.

This is the cup in which she used to give me tea. Today drinking tea in this cup made me relive all the memories. Body of a person fades away but we can find their soul in each and everything related to them. This is the reason why I love storing even the broken artefacts and such small things. I miss her a lot but I have lots of memories to keep me content.